Category: Dating/romantic


Clarity

Filed under: Dating/romantic, Life-n-stuff, Self — Leave a comment
13 January 2011

I had a class assignment this week to make a list of all my fears.  Good times.

In my Life, I’m no longer interested in giving thought or energy to anything around which I might have fear, but I knew the point of the exercise was to look at the fears (without staring, because that’s just rude), and to ask what there is to be learned from them.  A few weeks ago, my teacher, Keith, suggested we reframe those things of which we may be fearful and start calling them “the unknown.”  Yeah, that’s cool.  That resonated with me.

So when we got to me in class last night, I brought up the romantic partner issue and the fear of being alone for the rest of my life.  Now, I really don’t believe this will happen – in fact, I KNOW this won’t be the case – but the fear does cross my mind on occasion, and the assignment was to list all the fears we could think of.  Anyhoo, Keith eventually asked me:  “So what do you want in a partner?” and I was speechless.  Oh, I have a list, believe me.  And in the silence after Keith’s question, that list was scrolling through my mind like movie credits on TBS – impossible to read and latch onto anything.

Keith put me out of my misery eventually and said, “You should be able to answer that question like THAT,” snapping for emphasis.  Makes sense.  I think I’m clear, but maybe… not so much.  Actually, there is no “maybe,” because in terms of my romantic life, “not so much” is exactly what I have created.  Keith thoughtfully shared his own list:  a partner with whom he can share physical, emotional, spiritual, financial, sexual and metaphysical intimacy.  Incredible.

I am ready and willing to have clarity for myself in this area.  I’m grateful for the rest of what Keith went on to say:  “What are you willing to give and bring to a relationship?  What qualities do you want to experience in life?  The spiritual Truth around this matter is that you are one with the Power that transcends all conditions and is Cause to every experience.  So by means of your being one with that, you’re going to consciously attract into your world a partner that will magnify what you bring to the world.”

Proving I Am:  Divine Love.

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Relationships

Filed under: Acquaintances, Dating/romantic, Family, Friends, Relationships, Self, Work/career colleagues — 2 Comments
4 January 2011

This is a biggie, right?  The relationships we have and cultivate add color, variety and spice to our lives.  As I continue Proving I Am, there are many different types of relationships to explore:  those with family, friends, work/career colleagues, acquaintances (who I define as people I KNOW, but I’m not really friends with, but who are a part of my life in some way that is typically not work-related) and dating/relationship-type peeps.  For now, a quick overview.   (Insofar as my relationship to my Self, well… that’s pretty much what this entire blog is about, but it’ll be explored in more detail in the “Self Talk” blogs.)

My family is amazing to an extent which practically defies description.  I’m close to my family, and I love seeing our evolution as a unit and as individuals.  Still, I know there are areas I can improve upon to become a better son, brother, uncle, cousin, nephew, etc.  There are also aspects of my family life which would benefit from a shift in MY beliefs/experience of them.

My friends astonish and amaze me every single day, and I have such a range from which to choose!  Young and old, male and female, rich and poor (not that we get hung up on those silly labels), gay and straight (and in between… you know who you are!), black and white and purple and green and blue, and from all walks of life.  I am truly blessed and grateful.  I expect to continue having incredible relationships that grow deeper and more loving as time goes on.  This area is also about understanding when a friendship is going to continue evolving and expanding, and when it is time to let go.

Acquaintances and work/career colleagues are another interesting bunch.  So much of this practice is about understanding my relationship and experience of ALL the people in my life.  I know I attract ONLY people and colleagues who reflect where I am creatively, energetically, spiritually, emotionally, mentally, etc.  Those who show up in my experience and leave me with a big “WTF?” over my head are likely those who can teach me the most about myself – who I am, want to be, or don’t want to be.

And then there are people I meet for dating, flirting, courting, relationships, sex, etc.  Yeah, I said it.  Sex is another way our spiritual selves have some fun in this realm, so I see no reason why I shouldn’t have as much abundance in this area as in health, prosperity, love, creativity and so on.  Let’s talk about sex, people!  I’ll spare y’all the intimate details, unless they’re completely relevant, of course.  Clearly, this will be the relationship category that will provide the most amusement, as it tends to have the most room for… um… exploration, let’s say.  Just as in every other area, I expect these relationships to be healthy, sane, happy, fun, adventurous and ever-evolving.  The added bonuses of dating, romantic and sexual relationships probably need no further explanation here.  :-)

As I wrote this, it occurred to me that my relationship to the rest of the world is also relevant here – how I live and act in the various communities of which I am a part: Los Angeles, the entertainment industry, New Thought thinkers, coaches/educators, gay men, etc.  There’s also my relationship to the larger world, geographically speaking, as both a U.S. citizen and a global citizen.

So yeah… I Am healthy, happy, loving relationships.  As I learn more, I’ll share more.  Lots to prove here!

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